Relational Drift
What does the cousin visit cost over 20 years?
The Cousin Visit
180 minutes, 4 times/year, 20 years — the long-term cost is 240 hours.
How the number's built.
The missed cousin visit rarely looks final. At 180 minutes across 4 openings a year, it becomes 240 hours over 20 years.
If you changed one thing
Half the openings stay.
120 hours return.
No rush. It keeps until you want it.
A way through
keeping half the openings
6.0 hours/year returned
× 20 years = 120 hours returned
The Math
180 minutes / opening
4 openings / year = 12.0 hours/year
× 20 years = 240 hours
Assumptions
- Each opening lasts 180 minutes.
- 4 openings happen each year.
- Timeline spans 20 years.
- The calculation counts shared time, not relationship quality.
The arithmetic of cousin visit
Last reviewed: May 2026.
An estimate built for reflection — not financial, medical, or legal advice. The figures follow the assumptions above.